Wedding Tip of the Week

A few weeks ago I did a wedding for an adorable bride and groom. As I frequently encounter, there were family members who felt it their job to “take over” the wedding. From what the colors should be, to the types of flowers, and even the cake. The poor, sweet bride gave in to almost all of these because she just didn’t want the fight. I felt sad for her. It’s her day, her wedding day. This should be the most perfect day of her life. Fortunately, in the end, I think it was. She was easy going and really didn’t mind letting things go. But from one who is around weddings a lot, let me remind you, “This is not your day, it's hers.”

This is a once in a life time event. Let the bride have her day. Rejoice in her decisions, be there when she needs advice and a shoulder to cry on. Lift her up and encourage her when she is “done” with the whole thing. Each bride reaches the point of “I really don’t care!! Just do what YOU want.” Help her focus and see what SHE wants. Try to help her work through this. Be patient, loving and understanding.


More often than not, mothers are the biggest problem for the bride. They feel like their own opinion is most important. Again, the BRIDES opinion is most important. Many of these mothers would never even think of themselves as doing this. So be aware of your comments and opinions. Brides look to their mothers for support, don’t abuse this by pushing your agenda on them. This is her day, not yours. Even if you are footing the bill, she’s better off paying for it herself than having to “pay” for it every step of the way. Set a budget, that the bride is aware of, and let her spend it the way she wishes. Both the mother and the bride will be much happier in the end.



On a happier note, I went to the floral wholesaler today. I LOVE going there. I love the smell, everything there is to look at, and most of all – the flowers. I took a couple of quick pictures so you could see “behind the scenes.” In most wholesale instances, flowers are flown in fresh, almost everyday, from all over the world. Last month I did a bridal bouquet of just Calla Lillie’s, flown in from Argentina. (see above photo) Wax flower is mainly grown in Australia. This summer, their winter, they had some severe cold spells. This made one of the most common flowers around, nearly impossible to get for a couple of weeks. I enjoy knowing a little bit about where the flowers are coming from and what is “in season.” If you live in an area that grows a lot of fresh flowers locally, buy in season! This is fun and adds a personal touch to any wedding.



Oh, I wish these were scratch and sniff!